I do not understand bullying. Nor do I understand the parents of the child who is doing the bullying.
I know that we all like to think that our child would or could NEVER do such a horrific thing, BUT if you are given evidence time and time again and choose to do nothing about it then , to me, your are just as guilty of committing the act, too.
Statistics show that 1 in 7 kids are either a bully or are being bullied.
· " Research over the past decade suggests that, among US middle school students, approx 7.5% -13% bullied others, 10.6%-20.7% were victimized; and 1-13% engaged in both bullying/victimization (Batsche&Knoff, 1994; Cunningham, 2007; Dema2002). Ray & Maloecki, 2003; Kauffman et.al, 1998: Nansel et. Al., 2001; Seals & Young, 2003; Unnever, 2005; Wenxin, 2002), Based on review of the bullying/victimization literature, it is clear that these are relatively common phenomena for middle school students. "
And when asked , teachers typically underestimate the levels of bullying and victimization in their schools.
Kids who are bullied can experience depression, anxiety and health issues , as well as negative feelings about their physical appearance.
As if it is not hard enough to be a teen, when you throw in bulling and adults who choose to not listen or act, it is no wonder that children who are bullied are 2 to 9 times more likely to consider suicide than non-bullied children.
So I ask what are we, as parents supposed to do?
We send our children out into the world, whether it be to school , church, etc. , where we put our faith and trust into the adult that is there to lead/guide them, only to find out that the entrusted adult is turning a blind eye/ear to what our children are saying to them.
We tell our children to "turn the other cheek", that "two wrongs don't make a right", to " walk away", but what kind of message are we ultimately sending to our children when the bullying continues , time and time again, and you have done what you, as the parent feel is right, and still nothing is done about it?
We tell our children to " stay in a group" setting, to surround yourself with trusted friends, but what happens when those people just stand by and watch it all take place and say nothing at all?
You reach out to the the teacher to explain the situation and nothing is done, or worse yet you advise the parents and STILL nothing is done, but to increase the amount of bulling your child endures.
We can equip our children with all the knowledge and advice that we are parents have, but what if that is not enough?
Is there more that we could/should be doing? And if so what?
Is there a piece to the puzzle that we are missing, that will help us put an end to this?
If so I would like to know!!